You have made the decision to become a surrogate mother, you are awesome. You have been screened, your medical records have been reviewed and you finally get to start meeting with IPs. What are you going to say? If you are a first time surrogate, chances are you have no idea what you should ask, and that’s okay! Mothers First Surrogacy is here to help.

It is important to ask as many questions as you’d like during your match meeting. You want to match with IP(s) who are compatible with you to ensure a smooth journey. Keep in mind, you will be in contract with your IP(s) for the next year at minimum. You’ll want to gather as much information as possible before making this commitment.

Questions for surrogates to ask IP(s) at your match meeting…
• How many embryos do they have created?
• Have their embryos been PGT tested?
• Have they experienced any failed transfers with a surrogate?
• Have they had any previous matches fall through (details)?
• Do they have any strong opinions regarding their GCs birth plan or dietary preferences during pregnancy?
• What type of relationship do they desire during and after journey?
• How much communication do they prefer?

You should feel open to asking any other questions you’d like, before deciding to carry someone else’s child. The list above are questions that you may not know to ask but are important details for you to be made aware of before making a commitment. If you don’t feel like they are a great fit, it is okay to meet with someone else. There will be a better fit for the both of you out there. You want to match with IP(s) whose desires align with your own. You should have the same desired relationship and feel mutual respect when speaking with them.